Online dating can be scary but it doesn’t have to be. For most women over 40, it’s a last resort, definitely not something that they’re used to like old fashioned face to face dating. If you’re still looking for Mr. Right well into your 40s and have tried online dating before but just didn’t have any luck with it then hopefully this article can help you.
If you are over 40, here is how you get a boyfriend…
Whether you’re new to online dating or if you haven’t had any luck with online dating so far then it’s time to step back and really evaluate what could be stopping you from finding “the one”. Take these online dating tips to help get noticed by the best potential suitors.
Chose the best online dating platform for what you want to accomplish. Shy away from sites that cater towards younger singles like Plenty of Fish or that have a reputation for being too casual like Tinder . Match.com attract older, more mature people, so they would be better choices if you’re looking for a serious connection. Depending on where you live there might even be a location specific site like Gold Coast Matchmakers for 40+ singles in the Boca Raton, West Palm and Jupiter, Florida areas.
Spend quality time in setting up your profile. If your profile appears too basic, it’ll get lost in the rest of the generic profiles out there. Your bio should be a good length, a 3-5 sentence paragraph, so that it’s not too short or too long. It should be inviting and intriguing. The bio isn’t so much about what you do or your preferences but rather your accomplishments and your future goals to attract someone with the same wants.
Choose outstanding photos. Don’t hide behind filters or outdated photos. Chose a recent photo where you appear confident, where you are smiling. Dating coach Damona Hoffman [https://www.oprahmag.com/life/relationships-love/a25776713/guide-to-online-dating/] suggests using a photo that follows the three Cs: colorful (vibrant colors are more attractive), shows context (portrays your hobbies or adventures), and shows character (a funny face showing your quirky side). Add at least one full body photo too so there’re no surprises when it’s time to meet in person.
Lead the process by initiating the first contact. Let’s be honest, men suck at communicating so by you initiating the first contact, it takes the awkward small talk off the table and opens the door for better communication. Start with light banter, something funny. You can even poke fun at him to show you have a not-so-serious side.
Lead the process with initiating the first face-to-face meeting. Again, men suck at this stuff way more than women so by taking the reins and asking for the first date, he’ll be more willing knowing he doesn’t have to do it all. Suggest something easy, like meeting for coffee so there isn’t any pressure and see how it goes. If all goes well, hopefully he’ll initiate a second date.
Online dating can be successful if you’re willing to put in the work. Think of it as a job, like a freelancer hustling for clients, you have to constantly strategize and change what isn’t working. If all else fails, there’s always the grocery store.